Of all the tempting situations to get involved with someone intimately, workplace seems to be one of the more popular ones! It is not uncommon that communicating with someone on a regular basis in a familiar environment can help spark a more personal interest. Being related by similar backgrounds and connected with the same work activities can build certain expectations, especially if the person is charming, engaging and, above all, your type! And yet it is those exact expectations that can lead to wrong steps, which in turn can lead to unpleasant consequences.
Several times in the past, I have endured failed-office-romance-gone-south type of situations, which eventually resulted in my transferring job locations, submitting a resignation notice, and once being let go! Never direct and never immediate, my life was made a continuous several-month long living hell until the professional divorce finally took place. In all of the instances, the men were actually attractive. But since it is hardly just about the looks when it comes to seducing someone, it was the inappropriate approach that made it all wrong!
Without trying to get to know me in a more private setting, the men proceeded with unambiguous advances: from sexually charged comments to unsolicited private stories to flat-out proposing sex! As awkward as that made me feel, it was actually what followed my lack of reciprocation that bothered me much more. The unusual brevity of responses when approached professionally, the hostility in the tone if there is a common work issue are just the tip of the iceberg that I had to live with upon every future communication with the person in question. Shouting matches, being excluded from team activities, let alone any promise of professional advancement became a hideous reality as I eventually had to part ways as a result!
It is quite sad how so many people lack personal confidence outside work that they hop on the first hot ass entering the building. Maybe inspired by someone’s happily-ever-after office romance (which I’m sure exist!), some view the workspace as the place to meet “the one.” Going forward with sexual advances without knowing or not wanting to know much about your co-worker is entering a dangerous zone. Not only can it ruin the office atmosphere and irreversibly affect your professional relationships, but it can also leave a dirty mark on your personal resume for years to come!
SEX AND THE OFFICE
January 15, 2017
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Misha M is a columnist and an author. In the blog he shares his sexual adventures, the lessons that he learns and the suggestions he has to give