In 2006, AOL has released a database of search terms where it was shown that the most common word next to the word “fetish” was “feet.” And according to a fetish study from Bologna University, it was concluded that 47% of the respondents preferred feet and toes to other non-sexual objects of worship. Whether or not due to the fact that the sensory neurons for feet and genitals are adjacent in our brain, most of the people whose feet I touched using my hands, my lips or my tongue have provided a positive feedback, whether during or after the process!

Personally for me, the admiration of the male foot started early in my teens growing up in the former Soviet Union’s desert region of Central Asia, where summer lasts from May to October. It had somehow grown to become a joy to my eyes watching men strut the streets in dress sandals, open-toe slippers and flip-flops as soon as the weather got warm. The well-manicured toes on a manly foot became an object of visual fixation not only due to the phallic shape but also because the normally tucked and hidden body part was bare on display. 

It was not until I moved to New York in my early twenties that I knew what to actually do with this admiration, how to apply it in practice. Still a poor foreign student, I had to use the public library internet to search for something gay and kinky. A funny occurrence of sorts happened, when once, I entered the word “gay” in the search engine, how “foot fetish” appeared as a suggested addition – a like-minded individual had apparently used the same computer before me. It sounded wild and yet very familiar to me as this strange interest I had had for years suddenly acquired a name. 

Numerous pictures downloaded and videos watched later, it was the time to confront my demon and attend a foot fetish party to see how it’s done! Still very fresh and inexperienced in anything sex, let alone in something so kinky as objectifying a smelly body part, it was quite wild for me to watch all sorts of characters, in hidden nooks and dark corners, lick between other men’s toes, have their faces and balls stepped upon while beating themselves off. Disgusted by the “creepiness” of what I saw, I left the place shortly after – this was not how I had imagined it all! I did not know whether I was shocked or disappointed but I put the idea of materializing my admiration to rest. 

Until several months later, that is. . . when I went on a date with a handsome and intelligent Jewish boy who was staying in his relative’s apartment in the chic Manhattan’s Upper East Side. After a couple of cocktails into the date, we found ourselves frolicking naked in his aunt’s bedroom. Having sufficiently pleasured each other orally, and then anally, it was during a minute of rest that he grabbed my foot, placed it against his face and started slowly shoving his tongue between my toes and then sucking them one-by-one! Every move and every turn of his tongue gave me the type of a mini-orgasm that I had never experienced before as I did not want it to stop! It goes without saying that, looking back it did not take me long to understand the crazy euphoria on the faces of the attendees of the foot fetish club that I hastily left scared several months back!

Years gone by, not only had I resumed the occasional attendance of the gay foot gatherings but also further explored my fetish with as many dates as possible! Not every sex partner is open to it, as I would not expect them to be. And yet massaging feet, licking the soles, or sucking toes is often welcomed by the receiver due to a high concentration of nervous endings – as many as 200,000, to be precise! That is not to say that feet carry our entire weight, which rightfully makes them one of the most fatigued body parts. 

So if you want your lover skill score to go higher, you may try starting to go lower!


The Do’s and Dont's of the foot worship


1)   Rub and shove your soles against him, especially his face, if you come across a guy who is into your feet and he is playing the submissive serving role. It will be a heaven for him to smell your feet or just feel them on his body. Trying to (gently) shove all of your toes into his mouth may just be a cherry on top, as he lives for it!

2)   If you come across a top who suddenly starts sucking your toes while he fucks you, make him happy by also pressing both of your feet against his chest, rubbing it and/or squeezing his nipples using your toes – it only adds to the pleasure. Him seeing how you move and wiggle your toes is likely as exciting as the sex itself!

3)   During foreplay, try to massage his feet – you may be surprised as he might enjoy it, because most people do anyway. You never know, you may just discover something new that you both like. There are many foot massage techniques! So for starters, try to grab his foot and begin gently by squeezing it with both of your hands – you will know immediately if he is into it or not! Watch some videos online to find out how to do it better, if it happens that it works for you.

4)   Know the boundary between massaging and tickling. While it is one of the extensions of the foot fetish, far from everyone enjoys being tickled. Tickling usually occurs when the sensitive body part is stimulated with light and/or swift motions. Massage is more of a firm and slow touch – be aware that even that can cause a tickling sensation that might be unpleasant for the receiver, in which case you must stop!


5)   If the guy enjoys his feet worshipped, try to extend the area of worship to his calves. The muscles of calves are also responsible for carrying the body weight, and therefore likely in need of a good massage. Also don’t miss the knee pit, it also has nervous endings – licking it is recommended, instead of massaging, since there are no muscles there.


1)   Grow your toenails long. A couple of millimeters is already too long! Not only is it unappealing in general, but also a huge turn off for someone who is into feet! Sharp and long toenails can cut his tongue, and the dirt collected under them can cause unpleasant consequences for his health, given that it will be inside his mouth. The same goes for having dirty soles, such as after walking in slippers or barefoot outdoors. While sexy for some, it will be less likely welcome inside someone’s mouth.

2)   Assume that the foot fetishist is a full-on slave. The fact that he enjoys the look and the smell of your feet does not mean that he is there to take orders or be verbally humiliated. If you want to test if he is into more than serving your nether parts, try for example to gently slap his face with your feet – you will know immediately if you’re doing too much or too little!

3)   Step on him with your entire weight. While it is sexy for the foot fetishist to spend as much time as possible under your feet, there are still boundaries, crossing which can cause more harm than pleasure. Stepping on his face or his dick is a turn-on for him, but it is safer to use one foot while the other is on the floor and carries your body weight. Alternatively, instead of standing, you may want to sit on a chair while you do the trampling.

4)   Expect that he will be into your shoes or socks. While yet another, and huge, extension of the fetish, it is better to discuss it beforehand than start shoving your smelly socks into his mouth or have him lick your leather boots.

5)   Cleanse your feet, especially with soap, right before the date with someone who is into feet. The natural sweaty smell of foot is a huge part of it. Just like a dick should smell like a dick and ass should smell like an ass, a foot has its own unique odor and taste, which is as exciting for the foot admirer as looking at your toes or arches. Not talking a several-day old rancid stench, but showering once in the morning is just fine and more than enough for him to enjoy you!


September 4, 2017

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Misha M is a columnist and an author. In the blog he shares his sexual adventures, the lessons that he learns and the suggestions he has to give