Many complain about their looks but none about their brains! 

I had to suppress my laughter recently when a cute guy I made out with said to me that his arms could never grow as big as mine. Far from being a bodybuilder type, and neither do I strive to be, I have to say that about half a decade ago I had the same kind of thinking when I saw some muscle boy walking on a street, dancing in a club or training in a gym. With some extra baby fat on my face, chest and waist (courtesy of one too many Starbucks frappuccinos) that I couldn’t lose to save my life, I still thought twice before making the self-depreciating “I can’t” statements. Blessed with both good physical and, hopefully, good mental health I couldn’t settle with how I had knowing that it shouldn’t be rocket science to be able to get into a better shape! 

The innumerable amount of different workout routines and dietary advices with pictures of hot guys everyone wants to fuck can surely point you in the right direction. And yet every author of such articles perfectly understands that none of his suggestions is worth anything without the good old-fashioned boring, impossible, disgusting concept of. . . discipline! 


No, I am not talking about one month of gym and the next month of the gym sauna. I am not talking about two days a week of deadlifts and treadmill and the rest of the time beer and fries. And neither am I talking about killing yourself with long and heavy exercising every day. What I am referring to is simply switching your brain and slightly (!) modifying the way you live. Yes, it sounds big and dramatic, and yet the results in the end are also big and dramatic!

Look! I had sizzling hot sex with most types one can name: from skinny smooth twinks to stocky furry bears, and a lot in between! And with every assurance I must say that no amount of muscle will substitute a man’s inner confidence and genuine charm! It is not uncommon after all to see two “visually mismatched” people together – they don’t give a fuck what you think, they have hot sex! Which only goes to show that any body type has a market. Whom I am addressing, however, is those who whine endlessly about the way they look, how they “try” to work out, how they “try” to eat healthy. Instead of trying you should be doing. Instead of doing it tomorrow, do it today!


September 1, 2016


The Low Countries, the best place to realize some of the wildest man-on-man fantasies. The fact that the Netherlands and Belgium are the pioneers of the same-sex marriage leads one to conclude how comfortable it is to be who you are and do what you want in this geographic area. 


For me personally, these two ...


Every time the Almighty graces the Low Countries with a warm and sunny weather, I like to take advantage of it, especially towards the summer’s end, on the sands of Zandvoort beach. After a relaxing day at the North Sea shore one late-August weekend, I strolled back to the train station through the cruisy dunes to see what happens on the way. 


It seems like when someone uses the word “ugly” for another person, oftentimes it’s meant to indicate how unattracted they are towards that person’s physical features. Face, eyes, nose, mouth, body shape, etc. is sufficient ground for dismissal should we decide it does not agree with our taste. And although I do not see anything abnormal about having things that give you the initial ...


“No Asians!,” “Black only!!!,” “Hairy Middle Eastern preferred,” etc. – sadly still a common occurrence when you read online profiles! I always like to tell a story about a guy from the Philippines, as Asian as they get, who, to my awkwardness, read a surprise on my face when I opened his underwear and saw a 20 cm, thick cock hiding in there. 


Based on Gay Sex in the City column from Gay&Night magazine, published in Netherlands and  Belgium and the blog entries, the e-book is available for download on Amazon, AppleBooks, Kobo and Barnes and Noble


Misha M is a columnist and an author. In the blog he shares his sexual adventures, the lessons that he learns and the suggestions he has to give

it sounds big and dramatic, and yet the results in the end are also big and dramatic